sweatshirt
Major emphasis on “casual.” I’m in cut-off jeans, a hoodie and a top knot for goodness sakes!!
Okay so Valentine’s Day is right around the corner! YAY! I love V-Day. But there is SO much pressure involved. Us girls feel like we have to get dressed up and be wined and dined! Or maybe that’s not what you want…maybe you’d prefer flowers and gifts, or a night off from making dinner…Okay, I am not saying any of this is bad, or wrong to want/enjoy this! Because I am right there with you…
BUT…sometimes I feel like that’s all we focus on. (GUILTY) When the truth is, that’s not what this day is all about. It’s a day set aside to simply remind us of who we love, why we love them and how we show it.
Just because “Sally-Sue” is blowing up social media about how her significant other has spoiled her rotten all day…doesn’t mean anything. Good for Sally-Sue!
Stay in your own lane people! Don’t try and have Sally-Sue’s relationship. You aren’t Sally-Sue. You are YOU! And you and your significant other do things differently! Just because you aren’t going to a fancy dinner, or you didn’t get those flowers you wanted, etc…it’s okay because what’s important is this:
quality time
Forget about the cards, flowers, food, wine, gifts, etc…
Instead, plan time to be together. Uninterrupted…turn your phone on airplane mode and spend some quality time together. Do your favorite thing as a couple! Maybe this is a nice dinner with yummy food and wine! Or maybe it’s a quiet picnic at the lake with some yummy food and wine… ;)
Aaron and I have been together for 9 years. So that’s 9 Valentine’s. Gonna get real here…
If I’m being completely honest I have been “disappointed” almost every year. Okay, okay, okay! Relax, I am not going to bag on Aaron for one second!!
The reason why I was “disappointed” was because I had UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS! And because I was SO focused on those expectations, I couldn’t see the sweet, kind, wonderful things he was doing. I was expecting something that everyone else was receiving, instead of opening my eyes to the amazing things right in-front of me!
I guess what I am trying to say is…
LADIES, yes I am talking to you, because I KNOW I am not alone.
STOP, creating unrealistic expectations
and
START focusing on spending quality time together.
I promise you that it’s more rewarding than any card, gift, flower, or fancy dinner. That time will help build a stronger foundation for the future….which is kinda the whole point, right?
xoxo, maddie
